I Quit!!

What happens when excitement trades places with career burnout.

Burnout, a term described as a special type of work-related stress. According to the Mayo Clinic, it involves a state of physical or emotional exhaustion that also involves a sense of reduced accomplishment and loss of personal identity. This is something I’ve experienced personally in the field as a Professional Counselor and have also witnessed my colleagues suffer from it as well. It’s tough going through it yourself and sometimes knowing your co-workers are also burned out is a relief–it validates you as not going crazy! It’s also a warning sign that something’s not right about the organization you’re working for. So what happens when that initial excitement for your career fades?

 You might can relate to the anxiety as you drive in to work or enter a meeting. Maybe you spend your lunch breaks crying in your car or dreading that drive to the next client’s home. It can get hard to hold your head up while eating dinner with your spouse when you’re fighting back tears. I get you…I’ve been there and it wasn’t pretty!

So what can you do about it? “I quit!!” are the words that ran through my head often when I was in the field. Some days I meant it and other days it just felt good to let it out and feel like I had some sense of control. Ultimately, there are steps you can take to get a handle on burnout.

Steps to Burnout Freedom:

Step 1: Evaluate your options. Can you choose the type of clients you work with? Do you have flex time? Have you checked out other jobs you might be a good fit for? You don’t have to remain in a work situation that stresses you out to the max. We all have choices.

Step 2: Focus on healing. What would it look like for you to heal from burnout? Write it down. Visualize what the new you looks like. Does she take on less “extra” workload? Maybe she attends more professional development activities to get a break. Does the healed version of you actually take vacation instead of saying to herself “I can’t take off. My clients need me!”

Step 3: Seek support from a qualified professional. Now here’s where you can get creative. You’re a counselor so I imagine you already believe in the benefit of therapy. If you feel that would be the best option, find someone who’s a good fit. Some counselors have a hard time going to therapy because they don’t feel they have a mental illness. If that’s you, getting a coach to help you walk over the burnout bride to healing is also a great idea. (Shameless plug…I’m here for ya when you need me. 😉 You can always incorporate some healing strategies on your own as well. Exercise, better sleep hygiene, mindfulness and relaxing activities such as yoga or meditation can do wonders for you.

These steps aren’t meant to be overwhelming. It’s important that you realize how much control you have and increase your energy so you’re able to take an active role in your healing. If you want a safe place to vent and get support from other professionals who are also healing, visit my Facebook group “Mindset Healing for Counselors” at http://bit.ly/2GpI6mE . Until next time, love.

Marquita-The Counselor’s Mindset Coach

The Time is Now…


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Three Things Stopping Professional Counselors From Taking a Leap Into Entrepreneurship.

Have you ever set back and wondered why your 24 hours in a day doesn’t seem to stretch as far as others? You get up early for work, survive a long shift, get off and try to squeeze in the grocery run, attending to personal matters, running the kids back and forth to activities and finish your night routine only to realize you’ve made no progress. Is that just life for you or is it what you’ve accepted?

I get it. This is what it looks like for many working professionals and not just counselors. You might occasionally just accept that this is your life and the silver lining is that you at least get to help people improve their mental health in the process. But what about your mental health? Has it suffered while you push through and give your job your all with little in return?

So what’s stopping you from making a change? Could it be one of these 3 things?

  1. Fear often keeps counselors from embracing change. You spent years in school to get that degree and an additional 2+ years to get licensed. Some think “If I change careers now, people will think I’m crazy!”
  2. Low energy plagues many in the mental health field. Your work might not be labor intensive but your brain is getting a full blown workout dealing with all the issues you face at your job. Has it been hard to shift gears and allow yourself space to brainstorm how you’ll make a career change because you’re just too darn tired when you clock out?
  3. Lack of insight is another issue especially since it’s hard to see just how bad your situation is while you’re in it. I get it, you’re focused on surviving each day. At some point though, if you want to move forward, you’ll need more insight so you choose a new path that serves you better.

Do either of those ring a bell? This is the case for many counselors and that’s why I’ve dedicated my coaching business to helping counselors just like you. People that desire more out of life but aren’t just quite sure what that looks like or where to start. The truth is you CAN have a career that meets all your sweet spots. One usually thinks of candy but think about the parts of your life that could be better…sweeter. Maybe you want more money, time freedom or you might want to have control over the type of impact you have on others. It’s all possible but it starts with identifying the roadblocks. Lucky for you, I created The Counselor’s Block; 5 Burnout Traits Counselors MUST Heal From Before Embracing Career Transition. This pdf download is jam packed with information to help you identify where you’re stuck and get started on your path to healing. Interested? Just visit this LINK to download your free copy today! Until next time.

Marquita

Conquering Fear With 3 Simple Mindset Steps

Have you ever woke up and decided you’re ready to overcome fear but took no action because you didn’t know where to start? If so, this blog post is for you.

Yesterday, I took my first adult swimming lesson. Now before you start to wonder why today’s topic is about swimming and not Mindset Coaching, hold your horses because I promise to tie all of this in. 🙂

Back to the story. As a child, I was fearful of water…deathly afraid to be exact. The thought that drowning was possible made the idea of even trying too much to face. So I barely passed the class with my sister and our supportive parents didn’t push because “If you don’t want to do something, you don’t have to do it.” Looking back, I understand they were giving us autonomy. As an adult with kids, I now question how much I’ll push my kiddos when it really comes to facing fear…especially when those fears involve basic life lessons that one should know. Fast forward to being a mom in her mid-thirties (That’s all I’m willing to admit. lol) with 2 young children who love water, I had no choice but to enroll them and myself in lessons. You read into that correctly…my fear of drowning even extended to them.

So what fears are holding you back in adulthood? Which ones might you pass on to your kids if you don’t face them? Generational fear can be passed down and someone has to break the cycle. Will that be you? If I still have your attention, then I’d bet my money that it won’t. Here are 3 mindset steps to help you conquer fear.

  1. Explore your fear’s origin. Was it something that originated in your childhood? What message did you learn about fear of ____?
  2. Take action by visualizing yourself engaging in that fear. (i.e. If your fear is swimming, visualize yourself feeling comfortable in the water, floating and smiling as your kids watch you naturally engage in swim.)
  3. Utilize affirmations that help your sub-conscious mind embrace a new way of relating to your old fear. (i.e. “I enjoy learning to swim.” “I feel relaxed in the water.”)

If you practice those 3 steps consistently on repeat, you can embrace your fears in a way that’s comfortable and empowering. I’m living proof that it CAN be done! Also, if you have a fear of changing careers due to say fear of being judged by colleagues, fear that you won’t be successful, fear of learning something new, you can use these same steps to conquer that as well. Consistency is the key here.

If you enjoyed today’s post and would like to join a community of like-minded counselors who are all looking to heal their mindset wounds, consider joining my Facebook group “Mindset Healing for Counselors” HERE. See you on the inside!

Xoxo,

Marquita

Who am I?

This is the question that often pops up when I look in the mirror and really stare at the woman I’ve become over the past year. Professionally, my career started out in Psychotherapy and I took a break from working full-time shortly before having my first child. Fast forward 3 years later, now the mother of two children, Network Marketer and Mindset Coach, I sometimes laugh at who I’ve become…but not in the way you might think!

You see, three years ago, I didn’t have the drive, motivation or courage that I have today. I was living life but not fully living. I denied myself the right to pursue more out of life because I accepted that there would be a glass ceiling in my field that I’d likely never break through. When I took a chance at network marketing…and then testing the waters of affiliate marketing, I had reached a point where I’d try anything new. Well, almost anything. lol

It was an up and down journey but after attending training after training, following different leaders in the industry and ultimately doing the hard work on my mindset; I concluded that all along the problem wasn’t that I didn’t have all the skills. Rather, it was that I didn’t have belief that I could use the skills and get the breakthrough I so desperately wanted. My blog will document some of my journey and helpful tips I picked up along the way. Mostly, I plan to challenge you to be a better version of yourself by replacing your limiting beliefs with ones that align with a growth mindset. I invite you to check back for weekly posts that will inspire, encourage and motive you. I’m on a mission to help as many women as I can while using my skills plus passion. Will you join me on this journey? I sure hope so. 🙂

Love+Gratitude,

Marquita

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