Faith and discouragement…what you MUST know to push forward…

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Now this is a topic many are afraid to Google. It has become a way of life for many as they deal with the trails of life and often become stuck in discouragement. One minute you’re feeling a little down and the next minute you’re complaining to everyone you know, cancel dinner with your friend and your voice is getting too loud when responding to the daily trials of parenthood. It’s important to ask “What are the causes of discouragement?” And if you’re a believer, “What is said about discouragement in the bible?”

You probably weren’t expecting this post to get biblical but here’s the truth…I’m a Christian. It’s the foundation of who I am as a woman, wife, mother, and all the many roles I play. So it will be interwoven in this blog as I merge all the parts of myself. No apologies. It’s important to note that my practice of counseling and coaching have always been guided by this identity however, it has never impeded my ability to help anyone who doesn’t share the same beliefs. 🙂

Now back to the topic at hand…

So where does discouragement even start? A basic definition is that it means to deprive of confidence, hope or spirit. It can begin when minor problems or pressures begin to affect your emotions. You might be more inclined to keep this to yourself at this stage but you’ll know it’s major when pressure mounts, your spirit is impacted and others begin to notice. Complain often? It’s understandable. You probably feel a need to vent and get confirmation you’re not losing your mind! Let’s take an example from the bible…

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9).

In this passage, Joshua is called to lead the children of Israel into the promised land. We can imagine it being a great challenge to engage in battle, claim land from its’ current inhabitants AND provide spiritual leadership. This challenge, however, was one in which God knew to provide words of strength and peace. Words have power. This scripture alone has lifted my spirit during the darkest of times. Using a combination of scripture, self-motivation, mindset work, prayer and meditation, you too can release yourself from the grip of discouragement.

Try some of these the next time you feel discouraged…

1. Take your favorite Bible scripture, write it on a post it note and put it on your bathroom mirror or another place you visit often.

2. Take time to pray or meditate. It is said that prayer is when we speak to God and meditation is when we are silent and wait to hear what he has to say to us.

3. Engage in positive mindset practice. One way you can do this is by embracing challenges as opportunities. For example, if you’re discouraged about finances, what lesson are you learning about your spending, saving habits? What are you learning about planning for the future? Even further, if you’re not where you want to be financially, what lessons were you taught about money as a child? Challenge those as often as you can. It’s a gift that we get to set new rules and standards as adults.

4. Seek support from a trusted friend or professional. It’s okay to admit you’re in the sunken place…just don’t stay there long. Maybe you have a friend who’s been through the same thing or maybe you’re experiencing severe discouragement and it’s time to seek out the help of a professional. You know you best so trust in your ability to make a good decision here.

Today’s post is meant to give you hope. Be strong and courageous as you embrace the challenges of life. Remember that you can’t go around them, going through them IS your only option so take a look at how you embrace challenges and identify where positive change can be made. It is my hope that you finish this post with inspiration and if you want more weekly inspiration, sign up for emails from your favorite Mindset Coach HERE.

My best,

Marquita

The Counselor’s Mindset Coach

The Time is Now…


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Three Things Stopping Professional Counselors From Taking a Leap Into Entrepreneurship.

Have you ever set back and wondered why your 24 hours in a day doesn’t seem to stretch as far as others? You get up early for work, survive a long shift, get off and try to squeeze in the grocery run, attending to personal matters, running the kids back and forth to activities and finish your night routine only to realize you’ve made no progress. Is that just life for you or is it what you’ve accepted?

I get it. This is what it looks like for many working professionals and not just counselors. You might occasionally just accept that this is your life and the silver lining is that you at least get to help people improve their mental health in the process. But what about your mental health? Has it suffered while you push through and give your job your all with little in return?

So what’s stopping you from making a change? Could it be one of these 3 things?

  1. Fear often keeps counselors from embracing change. You spent years in school to get that degree and an additional 2+ years to get licensed. Some think “If I change careers now, people will think I’m crazy!”
  2. Low energy plagues many in the mental health field. Your work might not be labor intensive but your brain is getting a full blown workout dealing with all the issues you face at your job. Has it been hard to shift gears and allow yourself space to brainstorm how you’ll make a career change because you’re just too darn tired when you clock out?
  3. Lack of insight is another issue especially since it’s hard to see just how bad your situation is while you’re in it. I get it, you’re focused on surviving each day. At some point though, if you want to move forward, you’ll need more insight so you choose a new path that serves you better.

Do either of those ring a bell? This is the case for many counselors and that’s why I’ve dedicated my coaching business to helping counselors just like you. People that desire more out of life but aren’t just quite sure what that looks like or where to start. The truth is you CAN have a career that meets all your sweet spots. One usually thinks of candy but think about the parts of your life that could be better…sweeter. Maybe you want more money, time freedom or you might want to have control over the type of impact you have on others. It’s all possible but it starts with identifying the roadblocks. Lucky for you, I created The Counselor’s Block; 5 Burnout Traits Counselors MUST Heal From Before Embracing Career Transition. This pdf download is jam packed with information to help you identify where you’re stuck and get started on your path to healing. Interested? Just visit this LINK to download your free copy today! Until next time.

Marquita