How to discover and heal the subconscious money blocks impacting your daily financial habits

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Hey loves!

It’s been a while…I know. All of a sudden our lives adjusted and there was a need to look at my business activities and adjust how much time I was spending on each task. Blogging, as I’m sure you know, takes research, time and deep thought if one wants to bring the type of value that actually impacts lives. Life is all about balance and as such, I’m now shooting to produce at least one new blog post a month. They will likely be shorter in length but jam packed with actionable information! So there’s that. Now let’s move on to the written value I’ve prepared for you today. 🙂

Let’s talk money blocks…

Are you having a hard time figuring out why you under or overspend money? This doesn’t just define life for the average Professional Counselor but it’s characteristic of the general population as well. Many people describe their financial lives as “living paycheck to paycheck” or “there’s just nothing left over” or “I just can’t seem to spend money. People say I’m cheap.” These are all money blocks of course and if you’ve been following this blog long enough, you’re also into the LOA (Law of Attraction) so basically, the more you recite those negative statements, the more negative habits will continue to manifest into your life.

Here’s the thing about money blocks: they will remain glued to your subconscious mind unless you address them. When I first began studying how to remove them, I delayed the work because it seemed exhausting. You mean to tell me I really need to address all the issues from my past? Well, the truth is that you might want to if you want to truly discover what’s keeping you stuck.

The purpose of today’s post is to give Licensed Professional Counselors one actionable thing to do to deal with their money blocks. Of course people across many professions deal with these blocks however this blog’s focus is specific to counselors because they are often encouraged to provide pro bono services, accept salaries at non-profits that barely cover living expenses and student loans and work way more hours than they’re actually compensated for even after they clock out. There are different ways to address money blocks but the one shared today seems to be the most simple. So here you go-take it or leave it!

Are you ready to address your money blocks, counselor?

Step 1. Trace back to your earliest memory of the exchange of money. This could be something you saw or heard. It could be that as a child, you overheard your parents argue about money. Maybe one parent even yelled “That’s why we’re never able to take any family trips! It’s because you spend all the money before it hits our account!” This one memory could have been the start to all of your current money issues. You either grow up to believe you should spend money before it disappears or you avoid spending money for fear it will run out. Sound familiar?

Step 2. Visualize. Get in a quiet place, relax your body and visualize your earliest memory. Go through the whole scene in your mind and acknowledge any feelings that come up. If it’s fear, sadness, anxiety or frustration for example, you have a better understanding of the feelings the over or under spending of money leaves you with.

Step 3. Replace those negative feelings with positive ones by editing that memory in your head. This many take time and repetition but from personal experience, it works! You’ll simply complete step 2 but this time you’ll imagine hearing a different conversation (or seeing a different scene) take place between your parents. Maybe you’ll replace it with “Honey, I’m so happy our financial abundance affords us the opportunity to take family vacations as often as we’d like. And to think…we even have money left over!” The goal is to keep this positive one on repeat and not the other message. It involves tricking your brain but really, your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference so it doesn’t matter. 😉 You’re just looking to evoke a different feeling each time that comes up and over time, you’ll find that your spending habits (behavior) will change to match your new memory.

So are you ready to take some inspired action? As always, I truly hope this is helpful for you and invite you to comment below or feel free to reach out on social media or via email. I do respond to those messages personally.

If you’re a Professional Counselor looking for more techniques to address your money blocks or you just really don’t want to go the journey alone, check out The Breaking Mindset Barriers for Professional Counselors Program HERE.

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Until next time,

Marquita Myrick

The Counselor’s Mindset Coach

Christian Manifestation; How to Get More of What You Want While Honoring God

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In today’s blog post I’m going to take my best shot at explaining manifestation for you…the Christian way. When I first learned of the term “manifest” used in conjunction with spirituality and law of attraction work, I was intrigued. Like many, I jumped down the rabbit hole with multiple Google searches leading me to blogs and YouTube videos. One thing is for sure…there are many ideas around this topic and many strategies offered to make your dreams come true. There has been a huge disconnect however, in how this all relates to those of us who identify as Christian and pray to God and not the universe.

Before we jump in, let’s define it. To manifest is for something to reveal its presence or  make an appearance. My first encounter with this idea was while watching “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne on dvd. It’s based on the belief of the law of attraction and claims that thoughts alone can change a person’s life. Now at the time, there was high resistance. After all, I was brought up in the church, am a preacher’s kid and was always told that although I had free choice, ultimately God would not give me anything he didn’t want me to have. To this day, I still end prayers with “If it’s in your will.”

Fast forward to becoming a therapist, experiencing some life trials and becoming more flexible in my search for knowledge, the idea of practicing manifestation to enhance my life became a topic I would battle for years. Until now…it’s time to settle this for myself and anyone else thirsting for knowledge.

If you desire a clear understanding as to how you can serve God and manifest without calling on the universe, you are in the right place. This post is not about how to manifest anything overnight. Rather, the aim is to clear up the confusion so you can understand how to be a faithful Christian that also embraces the law of attraction. By all means do the research for yourself, pray and seek understanding on your own.

Scriptures to Calm Your Fear of Manifesting as a Christian

Again, do your own research in scripture. Read them in context, and pray for understanding. These suggestions aren’t law. It’s a way for you as a fellow Christian to better understand how to incorporate manifesting into your life without feeling that Christian guilt.

In all thy ways, acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Proverbs 3:6 (KJV) The scripture above is what was impressed on my mind as I began writing this post. Daily prayer about how to do this manifesting thing right will do that. As Christians, we must acknowledge God in everything that we do. It is my belief that manifesting doesn’t mean I don’t trust God to direct my paths. It just means that when I am directed in a path, I acknowledge him while I also take inspired action to pursue more of what I want.

“Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.”  Mark 11:24 (KJV) This is another scripture that stands out when searching for ways to incorporate the Christian faith with manifestation. In it, we are literally told to believe we will receive the things we pray for. How amazing is that!? This lines right up with manifesting our dreams and to me, incorporates that faith element.

“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1 (NKJV) This is a verse that really helped me tie things in. Faith is all about believing that even the things that are unseen will come to pass. It’s okay to believe in miracles. It’s perfectly fine for us to hope for things that we have not seen. God asks this of us as Christians…to have faith in him. So the next time you’re dreaming, visualizing and thinking about the things you’d like to see manifest in your life, remember this scripture and believe that you can incorporate your Christian values into your manifestation practice.

So what does Manifesting entail?

If you truly want  to manifest more, you’re going to need to clean up your energy and actively identify your blocks. From a scientific standpoint, everything and every person has energy. Have you ever wondered why you get along so well with most people but every now and again you bump into someone you don’t like but can’t pinpoint why? Their energy is off and you don’t need to take their temperature to tell. You feel it because you’re not an energetic match with that person. The same is true with thoughts, ideas, experiences, etc. If your thoughts are always negative, you can expect to attract more negativity into your life and the same is true for positive thoughts (law of attraction.)

With regards to blocks, everyone has them and they span across different categories. Mental blocks are anything that keeps you from getting more of what you desire. Money, relationships, career and self-confidence blocks are a few categories in which you may encounter mental blocks. For example,  you may have had a bad breakup with your high school sweetheart and are finding that any relationship you’ve had since then hasn’t lasted. There are likely some underlying blocks around relationships based on your past experience. If you want to learn more on addressing your money blocks specifically, click HERE to read a previous blog post.

So how do you clear these blocks to make away for positive energy that helps you manifest more?

Step 1: Get real with yourself. Acknowledge your low-level thoughts, energy and beliefs that are keeping you stuck. If you’ve felt low for a while, it’s a good idea to pray and ask God to reveal the beliefs that are keeping you stuck. Trust me, it will be revealed. Once you get clear on what they are, you can create positive space for manifestations to come through.

Step 2: Commit to going inward. Yes love, this is going to take internal work to include reframing negative thoughts, exploring how you arrived at your present state of being and actively addressing blocks as they resurface. The most important part in this step is that you pray for release. See, you can manifest as a Christian! 🙂 Simply ask God to set you free from all the things holding you back from your greatness.

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Step 3: Get clear on what it is that you want. Are you saying you’d like a new job and “God, I’ll take anything!” Don’t be surprised when the better job presents itself paying $5 less an hour than you make now. It’s better because it’s less on the job stress but now you have to worry about paying all your bills on time. Yeah…this is why you need to be crystal clear on what it is you want and don’t be afraid to tell God exactly what that is! First of all, he knows anyways and secondly, you’re short changing yourself if you aren’t bringing your biggest and boldest prayers to him!

Step 4: Embrace the idea that you already have it. Some manifestations take longer than others so in the meantime, you can prepare for your breakthrough in several ways. Spend time daily visualizing what it is that you want and sit with the feeling of having it. Write down all the things that come along with having it and remember to be specific. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between what is and what hasn’t occurred yet and from a metaphysical perspective, if you believe it’s yours, it already is!

Step 5: Take inspired action. Are there things you could be doing that will bring you one step closer to your dream? Write down a list of what they are then pull out your calendar and mark down how often you plan to do them. Again, pray and ask for God’s guidance on what you should spend your time on. I’m constantly seeking his guidance in my business. A common prayer is “God, what are the activities I should focus on to help others in my business?”

If this sounds like a lot of internal work, that’s because it is. Do you want to hear more news? It never stops. As you clear blocks and reach new levels of success, more blocks will appear. Sometimes, even ones you thought were cleared will appear again in new ways. It’s worth doing the work though because there’s nothing like peace of mind.

I truly hope this blog post has been encouraging, uplifting and motivating. Most importantly, I hope it calms your nerves around whether or not you’re betraying God by exploring ideas on how to manifest. If you have any feedback at all, feel free to comment below or reach out on Facebook. You can connect with me on my business page HERE.

Also, don’t forget to check out “The Breaking Mindset Barriers Program for Professional Counselors.” This post is only a snippet of the work I do with my clients. If you want to work with me 1:1 and are ready to dive deep and transform your mindset, check out the program HERE.

Until next time,

Marquita

The Counselor’s Mindset Coach

How to address your money blocks with an abundance mindset

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Today’s post is all about mastering the art of addressing money blocks. Acknowledging your problems with money is not enough to make them go away so if you’re dealing with what you’d describe as serious financial problems, this post was crafted for you.  

But first, here are some financial problems examples:

  • Not enough money
  • Minimum or missed payments on credit cards
  • Job loss
  • Late bill payments or you seek extensions on a regular basis
  • Too much debt
  • Health care costs
  • Legal action for debt recovery
  • Earning more than enough money

These are all categorized under “money blocks” in the world of mindset work and one of the things I work with my clients on in the last phase of the “Breaking Mindset Barriers for Professional Counselors” program is money mindset because it’s crucial that you address these to avoid blocking abundance in your life. Now let’s take the problems above and translate how they might show up in one’s mindset.

  • “I’m worried my money will run out.”
  • “I’ll never pay this debt off because I can only afford the minimum payment.”
  • “I need a job quickly! I’ll take whatever I can get even if it pays less than I’m worth.”
  • “I just can’t seem to get ahead because I’m drowning in debt.”
  • “I’ll go to the doctor less. We can’t afford it.”
  • “I’m going to ignore it because I can’t pay it anyways.”
  • “If I earn too much, too much will be expected of me.” 

Do any of these describe your attitude towards money? If so, please know there is no judgment. Many people are living in a high debt to income ratio so you’re not alone. It’s very easy to slip into negative thinking when it comes to money. In America specifically, there’s a belief that teens should be pushed to college immediately after graduating high school and many do. The problem is that they leave with high and sometimes even a credit card debt. Once hopeful about their future, they settle for jobs with low salaries and do their best to pay off their student loan debt. According to an article by Nitro College, the average student loan debt amount is $37,172 with an average monthly payment of $393. These numbers are expected to climb as more people enter the adult world without financial education. If you haven’t heard of the student loan debt crisis, you’ve been living under a rock. 

I’ve heard all sorts of stories about how people are going to pay off their high debt. Some wait on a family inheritance, some say they’ll do it the old fashion way by working hard, tightening up their budget, living on less and getting that debt down. Some plan to rely on student loan forgiveness and wait for it…some people are even waiting on money miracles to show up! Don’t laugh, this is a real belief and I used to have that type of thinking. The truth is that some of those things may happen but even if you won the lottery, if you had serious financial problems before, they will only be highlighted. If you have a negative money mindset now, winning the lottery or gaining inheritance from a family member likely won’t be the best thing that happens to you. Why? Because you haven’t dealt with the root of your money problems. Let’s break this down.

There could be several things impacting your money mindset.

Problem #1: Whatever you think about money leads to how you feel about money. That feeling gives off an energy. That energy is either supporting your money breakthrough or keeping you stuck.

Solution: You’ll need to clean up your thoughts and beliefs about money. The first step is becoming aware of how your beliefs impact your money mindset. This can be done by an awareness of your body’s response when you exchange money. For instance, if when you satisfy a bill payment, you notice soreness in your back, that energy is something you need to clear. Your subconscious mind may have the belief “It’s so stressful when I have to pay bills” therefore you associate circulating money in a negative way. 

Problem #2: You grew up in a family where money was always discussed negatively. 

Solution: Write down all the messages you received in your childhood about money. For example, maybe you grew up hearing “Money is hard to come by.” The belief you adopted as a child might be “I’ll have to work really hard to get money and when I do, it won’t last long.” Next you should write down a positive reframe of that very statement. This could be “My receipt of money is an exchange for the amount of value I offer into the world. If I’m working hard, it’s because I enjoy what I’m doing and that passion fuels me.” 

Problem #3 You simply don’t see financial freedom as a possibility for you. It’s going to be impossible to develop an abundance mindset if you can’t first see yourself having it. 

Solution: This is going to sound very simple but you must visualize what you having an abundant financial life looks like. You can do simple visualization exercises but just thinking about your desires is not enough. Check out the blog post HERE for one of the key things you’ll need to do when practicing visualization. 

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This list is not all conclusive. This post could easily be six pages long so for now, we’ll limit it to three things that commonly impact money mindset. If you read the issues above and thought to yourself “Wow, I’ve been ruining my chance at financial abundance!,” don’t worry. The good news is there’s still time for you to mentally claim the life you deserve. Once you do the mental work, financial abundance is on the way but you’ll still need to take action. 

Now let’s discuss some ways you can attract more abundance

  1. Express gratitude for the money you already have. There’s no sense in thinking you’ll get blessed with more if you don’t appreciate your current blessings. Sure, you want more. Don’t we all? Let’s try to have an attitude of gratitude and see where that takes you. If you’d like more on this topic, check out a previous blog post HERE.
  1. Track the money you already have. I make it a habit to track the money I receive by writing it down in my daily planner. Some people use a spreadsheet and some just use a tablet and whatever method you choose, it just matters that you’re acknowledging the financial blessings you already receive. I know this probably sounds a little crazy but trust me…I practice this and it works! In one day alone, two different individuals paid for my order at two separate food locations. You’d better bet I wrote the amounts down as money that was received and I expressed gratitude for it. 🙂
  1. Practice living by the moment AND dream about your future. Let me explain… What we’re discussing here is being thankful for what you have in the present AND also anticipating more of that in the future. A good way to do this is to let your brain go wild thinking about all the things you’ll do when you have attracted more money. This can include things you want or places you’d like to visit but also think of your big “Why?” What has inspired you to desire more money? Do you want to give more to your favorite charity? Do you look forward to supporting the Children’s Ministry at your church? Or maybe you desire to expand your business so that you can offer employment to stay-at-home moms. Whatever the case may be, the takeaway is that it’s a good idea to expand your thinking to the impact you can make on society as a whole by your financial freedom.

Now let’s talk about God and money

If you’ve been following this blog for a while, you already know the Christian perspective is coming your way. 🙂 First, let me disclose that my master’s degree is in counseling psychology and not divinity. In all things biblical, be encouraged to read the texts for yourself and most importantly, make sure to read them in context. Now that that’s out of the way…

During my childhood, I would commonly hear “Money is the root of all evil.” As you can expect, the implicit message learned there was that people who have money are evil, selfish and they use their money for devilish means. Talk about a negative money mindset! Please don’t tell my parents. Lol When a person grows into adulthood, they have the opportunity to keep their inherited beliefs, adopt their own or find a nice mix. If you keep the idea that money is bad, don’t expect to attract more financial abundance

So where does that leave those of us who identify as Christian? The answer is simple. Your brain will accept whatever you feed it. Even further, your subconscious mind will store all the messages you’ve ever learned about money just as a computer will store all your files until you go in and manually delete them. 

This, my friends, is why your decision today is very important. Do you want to remain in your current financial circumstances or are you ready to do the work it takes to improve your money mindset? Improve is the key word here because you will always have money blocks popping up. This will happen even more so as you reach new levels of financial freedom. You’ll need to continue to do the work to reach new heights and the good news is that growth is a life-long process anyways. 

I’ll leave you with these four things that helped me reconcile my childhood beliefs about money that blocked financial abundance in adulthood. They’re all tied to Christianity.

  1. Take everything to God in prayer. This does not exclude your finances.
  2. Find scriptures on financial prosperity that motivate you.
  3. Recognize and actively challenge the financial beliefs you inherited from Christian leaders and/or adults in your childhood.
  4. Consistently ask God how he will use you and your money to help his people. It’s hard to maintain the belief that money is evil when there are people who need your help. Remember that 1 Timothy 6:10 states “For the love of money is the root of all evil.” (KJV, not the full scripture) The key word is “love” here. Make your own interpretation.

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Until next time,

Marquita

The Counselor’s Mindset Coach